Men Healing Men
A weekend retreat full of brotherhood, embodiment, and healthy connection
November 13-15th, 2026 in Central Oregon
On your deathbed, the quality of your life will be judged by the answer you give to this question:
How much love did I give and receive?
Why this weekend exists
Most men are grieving something they've never named.
Underneath the anger and the shutdown there's a sadness most of us were never given room to feel, let alone show another man.
Our fathers and grandfathers weren't given space to express healthy masculine affection, so they couldn't show us either. We're left confused. Confused about the line between sexuality and sensuality. Stuck in a false paradox: homophobic or homoerotic. Fuck or fight.
It's on us--our generation--to do to rewrite the story of masculinity.
For the majority of us, our fathers didn't model "balanced masculinity" for us. That is what it looks like to be strong and disciplined, and at the same time loving, open, and soft. Firm on our boundaries, yet tender. And so the initiatory responsibility fell to the women.
Add to that the societal legacy of shame. We are born into shame-based homes, schools and religions. It gives us a warped relationship with our own bodies, to each other. Add to that the fact that pornography filled in the gaps our fathers left behind...
...and it's easy to see how much deprogramming must be done in our lifetimes.
What we practice
Presence, not performance.
We've been sold sex as conquest, as performance. But sex, at its root, is the deepest practice of intimacy there is. Some call it tantra. Some call it union. Whatever you call it, you don't need to have sex to become a deeply attuned, intimate being.
If you do this training, your partner will feel it. Not because of your stamina, but because you learned to stay present. To breathe them in. To be with them in the hard and the uncomfortable. To listen without getting triggered. To courageously share your desires, your fears, your needs.
This is what they've been wanting from you for a long time.
Presence. Courage. Atunement.
The Magic of Mens Work:
A Collective Re-Fathering
When you find a group of men you can be brutally honest with, something happens. You realize you're not alone. Other men have carried the same shame, the same confusion, the same wounds.
That discovery heals you. It opens you to deeper presence, deeper emotion. And it heals the men around you too. This is what it means to serve and to receive.
No one else is going to take the lead on this. Your partner, your children, your siblings, your parents, they're waiting for you to become secure enough in your own masculinity to open your heart to them.
What we practice
Closeness, on purpose.
Touch & Contact
Grappling, resistance work, and a hug workshop. Learning to be held by another man without flinching or performing.
Father Wound Work
Facing what was and wasn't given to you as a boy, and what that's cost your own fathering, partnership, and friendships.
Grief Ritual
Moving grief through the body instead of around it. Held by the circle, not alone.
Embodiment and Breath
Getting out of the head and into the body, together, through dance, yoga, breath work, and primal movement.
Rules of Engagement
Stuff will come up--that's the point. A bulletproof container with shared agreements will keep us safe.
No mind-altering substances allowed on the weekend. There are plenty of other spaces for that.
Everything that happens on the weekend stays on the weekend.
Not with self or others. Again, there are plenty of other retreats for this.
Participants have the right to pass or sit out any activities.
Before touching another participant, a man must get prior vocal consent. We practice this every step along the way.
Who this is for
Read this before you apply.
This is likely for you if:
- You've already built the life: career, marriage, kids, or some version of it.
- You want to be a more present, less reactive father and partner.
- You crave closeness with other men and feel the pull to withdraw from it too.
- You're ready to be confronted, not just affirmed.
The container
Three days, held close.
Friday, Nov. 13
Arrival & opening
Land, settle, and open the circle by the fire. Dinner at 5, opening at 6.
Saturday, Nov. 14
The full weight of the work
Father wound, touch, grief, and dance. The heart of the weekend.
Sunday, Nov. 15
Integration & close
Bring it back into a body you can carry home. Close by midday.
The Location
We will be gathering in Central Oregon on an 8-acre private ranch between Bend and Sisters.
Your guide
Andrew Belinsky
Twelve years teaching yoga, fourteen in men's work. Initiated with the ManKind Project in 2012, trained with Sacred Sons and a 500-hr certified Viniyoga teacher. He's staffed and hosted more than twenty men's retreats, and this territory, closeness, touch, the father wound, is where he's most at home. He's not teaching from theory. He's still doing his own work, including his own divorce and the years since, alongside the men in this room.
Investment
Retreat package
$
1500*
*Before October 16th
add on Sunday night for $300
You already know if this is for you.
Eight spots. One weekend. A conversation with Andrew comes first.